Toi Et Moi Engagement Ring Guide – Marrow Fine
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Toi et Moi Engagement Guide

Toi et Moi style engagement rings have a rich history and deep meaning… and are a favorite here at Marrow! This two-stone style is increasingly popular and a truly romantic choice, fit for someone wanting a more unique approach to their engagement ring. Our collection of Toi et Moi rings spans from classic pairings to unconventional designs, ensuring there's a perfect match for *every* unique love story.

We’re guiding you through the history, meaning, and popular stone pairing ideas for Toi et Moi rings – you’ll have everything you need to know about this sweet design.


What Does Toi Et Moi Mean?

Toi et Moi, French for "You and Me," perfectly encapsulates the essence of these rings. Featuring two stones nestled together, a toi et moi symbolizes the union and partnership between two people. It’s a romantic and meaningful choice as an engagement ring, and we love the endless possibilities that can be created. 

History of Toi Et Moi Engagement Rings

Dating back to the 18th century, toi et moi rings gained widespread popularity in 1796 when Napoleon Bonaparte presented one to Josephine de Beauharnais. This historical piece featured a pear-shaped diamond and sapphire (one of our favorite stone combinations!). Since then, toi et moi rings have been seen on royalty and celebrities, each bringing their own twist to the classic design.

Why Choose a Toi Et Moi Engagement Ring?

Aside from the meaningful and romantic symbolism of toi et moi rings, there’s also endless possibilities when it comes to customization - and can support you in creating a ring that feels completely unique to you and your partner. Toi et moi rings can be personalized to reflect the couple's styles, birthstones, favorite stones, or significant moments in their relationship. Many of our clients will combine something old with something new, or incorporate stones from both families, which feels super special. 

Toi Et Moi Stone Pairing Ideas

Diamond and Sapphire: This classic pairing embodies the original toi et moi ring given by Napoleon. A diamond traditionally symbolizes strength and purity, while the sapphire represents wisdom and loyalty.

Emerald and Diamond: An emerald paired with a diamond offers a beautiful contrast. Emeralds symbolize growth and harmony, making this pairing a beautiful representation of a flourishing relationship.

Birthstones: Couples often choose their birthstones for a personalized touch. 

Modern Pairings: Contemporary couples might experiment with unconventional pairings such as morganite and aquamarine or black diamond and white diamond for a nontraditional twist.

How to Choose the Perfect Toi Et Moi Engagement Ring

Whether you’re designing a toi et moi from scratch or choosing from our existing designs, our fine jewelry experts are here for you! They'll bring expertise in exploring your options and may introduce you to stone pairings you hadn’t previously considered. Here are some additional design elements to consider: 

Stone

You have the freedom to choose stones that reflect your unique relationship, whether through symbolism, color, or personal significance. Consider the stones' cut, clarity, and carat to ensure they complement each other, as well as your intended budget.

Setting

The ring setting should highlight each of the stones while ensuring durability. Popular settings include prong, bezel, and tension, which each offer different aesthetics and levels of security.

Metal: Platinum, White Gold, Yellow Gold, Rose Gold

The choice of metal can significantly impact the ring's overall look. Platinum and white gold give a more modern touch, while yellow and rose gold can provide a vintage feel. Considering the wearability of the metal is crucial alongside your personal style preferences and the quality of the material itself. 

Budget

Toi et Moi rings can vary widely in price depending on the stones, setting, and metal chosen. Identifying your price range will help you narrow down your options and find your perfect pairing.


Ready to start designing or shopping for your perfect toi et moi? Book a 1-on-1 appointment now.